Welcome back Treehouse readers!
We promise that we will be getting back to our daily blog with updated activity calendar oh so very soon. We are working on finding just the right balance of guests, information, stories, and activities to share with you. In the meantime, we are back with one of our "balanced" guest bloggers- the ever so lovely Christina- with your weekly Hump Day Happenings.
Happy hump day! Welcome back!
Today I wanted to talk a little about how sex changed from pre-children, and then after child #1 and then #2.
Sex used to be spontaneous, at the drop of a hat, mid movie, mid conversation, morning, afternoon, evening, it didn't really matter. We were in love and completely free to be engulfed in each other... ALL THE TIME!
Fast forward slightly, we are expecting baby #1. My body is changing in so many ways. My hormones are all over the place and so are my thighs, my belly and my booty! Haha. How can I possibly still look sexy to my partner or feel sexy? I can say now, with certainty that I wish I had cherished this time. I had no idea then, that for quite some time it would be the last of "our time". After countless sleepless nights and about 6 months of colic, we got into the groove of parenting. About 2 years later, we got back into the groove of more "regular sex" and more sleep (which didn't hurt).
Fast forward one year later, and welcome baby #2. Same thing (maybe a little more frequent sex this time), but essentially now I was on call 24/7 for two kids. I was the milk maid, the nurse, the professional tushy wiper and the best thing to puke all over, among so many other "duties"!
How could I possibly feel sexy by the time my husband got home from work and wanted some us time?
The answer is: I didn't. For a long time sex felt like a "chore". I still very much loved my husband and am more attracted to him now than ever but at that point, mentally, I couldn't get my mind off of the countless times I had been covered in someone else's body fluids and even a shower couldn't wash away my mental exhaustion.
Then I joined Athena's.
This past May I went to a workshop at company head quarters in Rhode Island. The topic of the education portion that evening was sex and motherhood. It was presented by none other then the president and CEO of the company who is a married mother of two. I listened with such intensity that I actually started crying.
As important as it is to be everything and give everything to my children, how could I be forgetting the reason they are here? That love and lust my husband and I had. How could I have pushed it all aside?
She mentioned how important it is to still invest in your relationship and your intimacy for both yourself and your children; how important it is to keep the spark alive. She told us how she and her husband planned a weekly date night. No matter what was going on in their world, they set aside one night a week (even if just for an hour) to completely devote themselves to each other. If they had a 5-10 min break during nap time or other occupied time that they would sneak away for a quickie. You know what? They are still so in love 30 years later!
Food for thought: What are you doing to keep the spark in your relationship? Do you make the time your partner deserves from you and visa versa? Do you remember why you fell in love in the first place?
Until next week!
Xoxo Christina
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